16 hours agoCleanse, but Make It Empowering: Day 2In my continuing quest to confront the demons of diet culture, today I face: The Demon of Schadenfreude Let me back up just a little and start with an admission: I have a reality TV habit. It started years ago with the explosion of reality shows on cable networks like Bravo and A&E. It…Diet Culture2 min read
2 days agoCleanse, but Make It Empowering : Day 1By any accounting that actually matters to me, I am too old for this shit. But, here we are. It’s summer. It’s getting hot in the northern hemisphere. Arms and legs, shoulders and bellies are all seeing the light of day. And even in my TV-free world, the messages about…Diet Culture3 min read
Feb 21This Little Trigger Cried All the Way HomeOne rainy afternoon, when I was in grade school, Sister Mary Mary* decided to have an impromptu spelling bee. This was absolute music to my ears. In every social measure for preteens of the time, I was lacking. Fat. Awkward. Weird haircut. (Maybe you were that kid too?) But —…Childhood3 min read
Dec 28, 2021I just got back my “Letter to Your Future Self”Last year, my annual end-of-year retreat was a 3-day dance meditation held over Zoom. At the time, I was still mostly okay with the isolation, just starting to touch the edges of despair and loneliness. …New Year2 min read
Nov 26, 2021Day after Thanksgiving, UndoingThere are only two kinds of soundscapes at my mother’s house: silence, or CBS morning news. …Holidays3 min read
Sep 30, 2021One Month, One Poem: Goodbye(The month of September, I am reading “My mother’s body” by Marge Piercy every day. I am also coming here as many days as possible to share what happens for me when you visit a poem so often.) I have neglected writing about my experience with this poem — but…Poetry3 min read
Sep 9, 2021One Month, One Poem: Metaphor(The month of September, I am reading “My mother’s body” by Marge Piercy every day. I am also coming here as many days as possible to share what happens for me when you visit a poem so often.) I live just down the street from a cemetery. Not just any…Poetry2 min read
Sep 6, 2021One Month, One Poem: Coat(The month of September, I am reading “My mother’s body” by Marge Piercy every day. I am also coming here as many days as possible to share what happens for me when you visit a poem so often.) The deep, endless caverns of grief and compassion rule today. This is…Poetry2 min read
Sep 5, 2021One Month, One Poem: DollbabyI don’t know where the idea originated, but somewhere a friend of mine saw the suggestion of choosing one poem, and reading it every day for a month. I like how words go, and I especially like how poets make words go. …Poetry2 min read
Aug 30, 2021I am my best self when I am running slowlyI used to run lots of races. I was a constant presence in the back of the pack, running for myself, for time, for that good feeling of tired legs at the top of a long hill. When the race ran on trails, the first person to an obstacle would…Writehere3 min read